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We all get nervous about dating, but that nervousness should be centered on hoping the person likes you back, not on dreading the idea that they try to make a move or get too close. Butterflies shouldn't feel like anxiety or nausea. You mean to tell me that getting the ick every time a man shows interest in me is a gay thing? Someone please tell me again why I thought this was a straight thought process.
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It's a tad fruity to lose interest in men as soon as they show interest in you. Have you ever had a sexual fantasy about a man, but he has no defining features? For me, my dream man just existed in a vague "this is what you should be attracted to" kind of way. The same way attraction to fictional characters doesn't necessarily mean attraction to the male gender, sexual fantasies can be a way to have heterosexual validation without actually having to be intimate with a man.
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Sexual fantasies don't equate sexual desires!!! Plot twist - male characters from books and movies, and even male celebrities, are completely unattainable and therefore a "safe" place to put time and energy, even subconsciously, because nothing could ever come of it. I was so in love with him that I decided I couldn't possibly be gay (teenage me clearly hadn't heard of bisexuality). When I was in high school, I was in love with Tobias from the Divergent series. Attraction to male characters or celebrities does not necessarily mean that you are attracted to men. If straight women can recognize that Blake Lively is beautiful and maintain their straightness, then I can say that Timothée Chalamet is beautiful, and still be a lesbian. I spent so much time thinking that I must be attracted to specific men because I was able to recognize that they were attractive people. There is a (huge) difference between recognizing that someone is attractive and being attracted to that person. I wholeheartedly believed this was true while I thought I was straight, but apparently, it’s pretty gay to think all women are just more attractive than men. Straight women don't think all women are objectively more attractive than men.